Caught in the act

Infidelity seem to be a commonplace occurrence in this day and time. If things are not going well in your marriage or relationship, it appears that it is easier to move on to someone else while still in the current relationship.  Whether you are a man or woman, how you deal with this situation will vary.  Most people cannot believe that it is actually happening, some want to ignore the fact.  You began to think about what you have done wrong, what is wrong with you the reason he/she no longer wants you.  Infidelity is based on physical intimacy and emotions.  Relationships may begin because they feel comfortable with each other to talk about their dreams and aspirations, which are the basis of every relationship.  Individuals who are emotionally involved do not believe that they are cheating on their spouse. 

          When men and women become unfaithful to their spouses, and partners, their actions become obvious.  One of the first signs that tell you that your spouse is unfaithful is their day-to day behavior changes.  They become secretive and distant; they may talk about a particular (female or male) person on a regular basis.  They start to look at things at home differently, start staying at work later and later, they become evasive and defensive when asked what is wrong.  Other signs might be the increase use of the computer while you are sleeping, telephone calls that result in hang-ups when you answer, unusual visits with your friends.

          Most men or women do not cheat because they have fallen in love with someone; there are financial problems, communications problems, and lack of sex in the relationship.  There are some men and women who have a problem; they have to have that extramarital relationship on the side all the time.

          Women and men began to question themselves because of their partner’s infidelity.  They began to wonder what is wrong with them to cause their partner to stray, they began to look at themselves in a different way, they want to make changes to themselves, and some suffer from depression because they cannot deal with the fact that their partner is having an affair.  All kinds of feelings and emotions began to surface, and you do not know which way to turn, you do not know who to trust with this information, or if you should ask your partner.  Where do you go from here?

Work Cited

Castleman, M. (2009, October 15). Marital Infidelity, How Common Is It. Journal of Psychology Today.  Retrieved February 18, 2011 from   HYPERLINK "http://www.psychologytoday.com/.../marital-infidelity-how-common-is-it" www.psychologytoday.com/.../marital-infidelity-how-common-is-it .